Learn To Appreciate


-Tony Robbins-

Aren’t expectations pretty much our way of putting conditions on our happiness? I do this ALL time. Please tell me I am not the only one. We pretty much are saying “I will only be happy if ______ happens?”

IF my spouse spoils me for my birthday.
IF the kids are perfect angels today.
IF it doesn’t rain and ruin our plans.
IF I get this promotion that I deserve.
IF I don’t get sick.

What if we were able to trade those expectations for gratitude. Don’t you think that would be such a game changer? It could instantly make what we have feel like an abundance. Trading those expectations allows us to choose happiness and peace in ANY circumstance.

Again this is what I am working so hard at doing. Instead of being disappointed or let down with myself or a situation or a day, I start looking for the GOOD. In my life, in my relationships.

It really has started to change things. It gives me something to focus on and the hard times don’t always feel so hard. So instead of being grumpy because I had a four year old screaming at me all day. I think of how grateful I am for my child that I waited a really long time for. When the weather is bad and I don’t get to go hiking or to the reservoir with my family, I instead try to just be grateful for my family and for the day we get to spend together.  When a hard lesson has been learned I am trying to be grateful that I get to learn it.


I Am A Beast


If all of those things in the meme above are what you are wanting, what makes you happy when someone says it to you then that is awesome. Me though, I don’t love it. I have a really hard time when someone tells me “oh you are tiny, there’s no way you could know what I am struggle with”. “you just wouldn’t understand how hard it is to lose weight” etc. I have to take a deep breath and just smile. Because what I really want to say is you have no idea. You have no idea how I spent the majority of my life over weight and unhappy. The majority not comfortable in my skin. You have no idea how I literally worked my butt off and am now the strongest and healthiest that I have ever been in my life.
The other day I went to a different circuit training class with a different teacher than I normally go to. In her class we did each exercise for 3 one minute rounds with 15 seconds break in between. I was on the tire flip and you guys that tire is heavy. I can’t remember for sure but I think it’s 150+ pounds. I flipped that tire better than I ever have before. I was feeling strong and that all my hard work has been paying off. The teacher came by on my third round and said, “wow, you are a beast!” And then quickly apologized. I laughed and told her that was the best compliment I could receive. Tell me I am strong, tell me I am a beast. Don’t focus on my physical appearance. Because honestly your physical appearance isn’t what matters. As long as you are working hard at whatever your goals may be and working to better yourself you are a beast! 🙂